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Post by Germany's Top Scorer on May 9, 2015 22:04:24 GMT
I hate how I've wasted the last ten years of my life. I'll never get the time back and I could've done so much more with it. Such a waste. I pray the next ten years aren't so dismal. Is there anything particular you think you should have done in that time? I get that feeling (although for 5/6 years rather than 10) occasionally but that's what I usually fall down on.
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Post by Cashis on May 9, 2015 22:11:45 GMT
I hate how I've wasted the last ten years of my life. I'll never get the time back and I could've done so much more with it. Such a waste. I pray the next ten years aren't so dismal. It's quite rare that people don't think this though tbh. Dont beat yourself up.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2015 22:20:15 GMT
Meh it's a cliché but you only really get one go at being a parent and a lot of people don't get it right. People use their parents as teachers though in what not to do. I know at least with my dad he loved his mum more than anything but his dad is a cunt who used to beat her and all of his kids which made my dad a bit of a prick when he was in his teens. But once he has kids he realised he didn't wanna be like his dad and it gave him a sense of purpose. He still had his issues but I couldn't fault him nowadays.
On the whole friends thing, you don't need a whole squadron of friends imo. I'm quite blessed in that I've got quite a lot but the ones I don't think I could get by without in my life to some extent I could count on one hand.
But what are you, 22? Too young to feel like you've genuinely wasted your life because there's still loads of it left hopefully and the mistakes you've made in the last 10 years won't even be remembered when you're older tbh.
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Post by samuel on May 9, 2015 22:28:14 GMT
Squidgy, moving lump in my scrotum lads, anyone ever had this?! Cyst, build up of semen, cancer..?
also, fifa?
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Post by Liverpool_96 on May 9, 2015 22:31:16 GMT
drugs hidden behind there?
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Post by jaffers on May 9, 2015 22:31:54 GMT
In fairness, as you get older your friendship group will drastically fall off. I have about 5/6 close friends that I keep in regular contact with, and then a fair amount who are just friends that I'll speak to if I see but I don't keep up with them and vice versa. That's apart of getting older though, you lose the ability to maintain a massive friendship group for whatever reason (usually life to just taking the both of you down different paths). Relationships with the opposite sex, depends what you want. If you're looking to fuck then tinder, pof (to some extent) and just going out on the piss will probably lead to plenty of chances if you're willing to make a move. Again though, as you get older you tend to want something more worthwhile. In which case you're not going to have loads of women to pick from, because realistically there shouldn't be a point where you think I'd settle down with her, or her, or her, or her etc.' It should be a one person thing. Just don't accept them as friends on the FB point loool. I doubt anybody is gonna get offended if you don't want them as a FB friend, plus they'll probably be equally as not wanting to look like some weirdo to people.
It's a shit your parents split up, I get that must've sucked but sometimes you just have to let things be. It happened a long time ago I'm guessing, leave it in the past and don't dwell on the 'what ifs', that's a way to lose years of your life. You need to remember too, as much as you're their kid and they should look out for you, they also have their own lives. They needed to make decisions that made their lives worthwhile too, as well as making sure you were okay. You're also what, early 20s? Given most people don't get any type of real freedom until they're 18 I wouldn't worry too much. You've got 60 odd years ahead of you if you're healthy, and fortunate not to be hit by a bus, plenty if time to do what you want. Just start being more proactive, the more you put yourself out there the more things will happen. I was in a shitty rut about 7/8 months ago, where I was horribly depressed with life. Since then I've started up driving lessons, started playing football weekly again, started eating better and generally taking care of myself more, made more of an effort with the friends I do have in my life, actually been proactive with the girl I like instead of the constant putting it off and 'what ifs'. I've still got a shit long way to go, but I'm much happier than I was then, to the point people have told me how much happier I seem with life. That's the good thing about life, you can have a shit -x- amount of years, but in the space of one you can turn it upside down and be in a completely different place.
Stay golden.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2015 22:35:26 GMT
And if you feel shit just remember I'm currently pondering whether to ask a 17 year old if she wants to go out and I'm most worried about her being given a kids menu in a restaurant than anything else.
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Post by samuel on May 9, 2015 22:38:40 GMT
drugs hidden behind there? nah genuine with this, felt it about half hour ago.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2015 22:43:43 GMT
get to the doctors, can't be too safe with anything like a lump
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Post by Star of Spurs on May 9, 2015 22:47:29 GMT
mike man, do you have any long term goals, stuff you want to achieve, things you want to become (guessing you feel you've wasted time because your life isn't what you want or imagined, so you must have an idea of what you do want to be)? when i feel out for the count i remember all the shit i want to do and it keeps me going, even if it's just one day at a time
as for the quantity of friends i was on good terms with every person in my year at my school but when i had to drop out only ten or so remained or even seemed to care how i was. i'd be upset, but those are the ten best friends i've ever had and being able to talk to them, share with them and grow with them is worth a thousand passing acquaintances. a core group of people you know care about you is possibly the best thing in the world
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Post by Mycon on May 9, 2015 23:23:32 GMT
While social media has many good points, I think one of its downsides is that you know what everyone is doing with their lives, even people you don't really care about, which simply wouldn't have happened to the same extent with any other generation. Then most people put up on fb or twitter about how well they are doing, it's easy to feel bad yourself and think why you aren't doing what they're doing. Plus everyone is bombarded by people doing notable things in the media and you're left thinking 'what have I done?'
Unfortunately, the paradox of life is that almost everyone's worst critic is their own. You end up comparing your life against other people instead of focusing on what good you've done in your life so far. I believe that everyone has their own unique set up of abilities, personality traits and circumstances that make their situation unique. Finding your niche is really the key to satisfaction I think, what unique circumstances do you want to be in front of you when you wake up in the morning, if it means a girlfriend, new house, new job or whatever and then work towards them.
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Post by The Quito Diet on May 9, 2015 23:31:27 GMT
There's also a fair chance in the scenario that a lot of the people you look on enviously at quite possibly do the same to you for different reasons.
I've got mates who left school and have worked office jobs, got themselves a house, a wife and kids and start to regret going to university and thinking I've wasted years.
One of them said to me he looks at me and wishes he'd gone to uni for the experience and had gone on trips with his mrs before settling down.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2015 23:41:58 GMT
Squidgy, moving lump in my scrotum lads, anyone ever had this?! Cyst, build up of semen, cancer..? also, fifa? Most likely a vein. They can be more pronounced in some people and/or if your feeling hot. Get it checked out though.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2015 23:46:22 GMT
And if you feel shit just remember I'm currently pondering whether to ask a 17 year old if she wants to go out and I'm most worried about her being given a kids menu in a restaurant than anything else. caught da feelins fam pauly tryna find a rl lorde
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Post by Germany's Top Scorer on May 10, 2015 0:10:30 GMT
'caught', 'find' and 'a' were the only things I understood then.
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