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Post by Disenchanted on Mar 25, 2014 8:36:44 GMT
I'm also bipolar. Don't really have a ton to contribute because I don't know you that well but I will say (at the risk of sounding cliche) that you're not alone in this and it's fair to say that I imagine 95% if not more of this community would be here for you if you needed them. There's all the bickering and joking and all that but deep down its a close knit group.
But yeah, the point of all this is I know exactly what you're going through.
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Post by cl7 on Mar 25, 2014 8:38:58 GMT
don't really need them to deal with it , just a case of knowing what's funny for everyone involved to have a laugh at and what should be off limits... most don't.
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Post by Stu on Mar 25, 2014 8:50:18 GMT
Not quite on the same level as other posts in this thread, but I've just left Stella at the vets for her spaying and I haven't been this scared about something in 9 years.
My depression makes me see the worst case scenario in anything that effects me, so I'm thinking they'll catch a main artery and her little face inside her box as I left is going to be the last time I see her.
Sat in my car in the car park at work with tears in my eyes, so pathetic lol. I just want her home and today is going to be the longest 4 hr shift I have ever done.
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Post by Cashis on Mar 25, 2014 9:48:20 GMT
Not quite on the same level as other posts in this thread, but I've just left Stella at the vets for her spaying and I haven't been this scared about something in 9 years. My depression makes me see the worst case scenario in anything that effects me, so I'm thinking they'll catch a main artery and her little face inside her box as I left is going to be the last time I see her. Sat in my car in the car park at work with tears in my eyes, so pathetic lol. I just want her home and today is going to be the longest 4 hr shift I have ever done. That's not pathetic, if my cats ever had to have an op id be exactly the same. What can I contribute... Well I apparently suffered with depression according to the doctor so I went on anti-depressants for a few months but I got sick and tired of them and didn't want to rely on pills so I've thrown them away and since then I've been doing fine. I will never go back to them. My family are stable and we don't have any mental people apart from my crackhead uncle but he's beyond help. I feel bad now, feel like I need more problems.
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Post by #FreeBTS on Mar 25, 2014 10:00:16 GMT
By telling them though they've got to deal with it in some way, that's just a fact.
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Post by Disenchanted on Mar 25, 2014 10:05:56 GMT
I'd expect a friend would be able to have a good go of it though. I mean everyone's different I get that but if your first response if a friend tells you they're depressed and are contemplating suicide is 'well this is a bit uncomfortable' as opposed to trying to talk to them about it I honestly have to question you as a person.
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Post by #FreeBTS on Mar 25, 2014 10:07:35 GMT
well obviously i'm not going to say that am i
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Post by Disenchanted on Mar 25, 2014 10:10:04 GMT
I meant thought, not words. I didn't say you'd say it. But even the thought comes across to me as hugely selfish when this person obviously has a bigger problem than you. Maybe its just me because by having bipolar I know I'd be the person on the other end of it and if I told a friend and they cared more about feeling uncomfortable I'd be a bit put off to be honest
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Post by #FreeBTS on Mar 25, 2014 10:13:53 GMT
it's just a natural reaction mate, i'm not going to let them see that and obviously my main thoughts would be with helping them. i'd be guessing most people are a bit like this, otherwise all male friendships would be completely emotionally healthy with no pathetic competitive undertones
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Post by Stu on Mar 25, 2014 10:34:17 GMT
Fucking missed call and a voicemail from the vet literally had me in an emotional state i dont wish to return to Shes fine and recovering though. So relieved
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2014 11:46:16 GMT
One thing I've always found amazing about friends on the internet is how openly you can discuss topics you wouldn't normally even consider discussing with real life friends. Maybe it's the security that a secret can be kept by someone overseas who has no mutual friends to spill the beans to, but it's great to have that trust, especially for a community like ours. I'm glad you can feel the need to talk to people here ange postecoslamp because it's crucial in your situation. I have a problem but it's quite minor compared to some here but I still view it as a significant enough problem in my life. I'm trying to cut out porn altogether in my life but some evenings when I'm alone the urge just draws me to my phone and there I am watching it again. Don't get me wrong, it'd be once every couple of days or so (not constantly, although when I was younger I was watching it at least once a day). I'm just trying to cut out masturbating completely and I know I could if I conquered this "addiction". I'm just looking at the bigger picture and I wouldn't want it affecting my relationship, and to be honest, at the beginning of my relationship I did worry about the possibility that I wouldn't be able to "get it up" because of watching porn and masturbating in general. I went through a spell where I was doing really well - only masturbated like once every two weeks - but I lost motivation that I need to get back because there are times when I've felt depressed over it and then it escalated into worrying about so much regarding my relationship etc. But on the other end of the scale, I felt great when I wasn't, I felt more confident and I had so much more energy throughout each day. I just need to conquer it when I'm alone and avoid my phone late in the evenings.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2014 11:50:36 GMT
Stu I'm sure she'll be fine man but fingers crossed and that.. operations are always so mentally draining. Maybe even moreso than emotionally imo. Just make sure you keep an eye on her stitches and she'll be right as rain in no time. My sisters a vet nurse and she always says that operations like that are so regular that the vets and nurses etc rarely do much wrong. Like a walk in the park for them, pretty sure its the first thing they're taught to do/introduced to because its such a common op. Always hate witnessing them completely fucked on the drip or whatever they have given to them after the op, when they're brought home, though. When my youngest cat came back from the vets she was basically inanimate for nearly a day. Horrible.
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Post by Stu on Mar 25, 2014 17:05:10 GMT
Thanks lads, she's home now and perfectly fine. Annoying me already so she's back to normal.
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Post by Kesh on Mar 25, 2014 17:14:18 GMT
Not really serious in the grand scheme of life compared to some of you guys, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to be getting a beating by a big black gang any day now. I wish drunken me wasn't such a problem for present me.
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Post by Stu on Mar 25, 2014 17:15:41 GMT
Claim racial assault and get them all done.
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